Living a Lie: A Deal Worth $3000, Jay Wilds and Neighbor Boy

If you haven’t heard season 1 of the Serial podcast,  the follow-up podcast Undisclosed: The State vs. Adnan Syed, or my previous post this post will not make much sense.

For the last several months now I’ve been mildly obsessed with the case surrounding the disappearance and murder of Hae Min Lee in Baltimore City/County in 1999.  I pray that her family and Adnan’s gets real justice.

After I finished the Undisclosed podcast I discovered the Truth & Justice with Bob Ruff podcast. Somewhere around the middle of the season Bob rebranded the podcast from its original name of Serial Dynasty.

Episode 18 of the “Truth & Justice” Podcast was shocking! Halfway thru Bob drops a bombshell… that he had been communicating with Jay Wilds for weeks.  My mouth dropped open and my heart skipped a beat!

Bob appealed to Jay by professing his belief that Jay was innocent in the murder case of Hae Min Lee.  Bob disclosed that he was sure that Jay had essentially been puppeteered by the police and coerced into confessing any involvement in the case.  Although Jay did not confirm Bob’s suspicions, surprisingly, he did not deny them either.

Ultimately, this just confirmed one of my theories in this case.  That Jay really was not involved in the disappearance and ultimately the murder of Hae.

Bob mentioned that he actually felt bad for Jay.  And I can understand Bob’s feelings.  I think that once Jay got involved he quickly got in over his head and before he could realize what was happening he had potentially just screwed himself.  And all for what may have seemed like a deal he couldn’t pass up, when it was all said and done, he really had just offered his friend or close associate up for something Jay had no actual knowledge of.

Let’s examine this…in my opinion, the cops probably had a small drug charge on Jay that they were using against him.  Claiming to file charges and arrest him on possession charges if he didn’t give them information on who they suspected was involved which was Adnan.

The cops, like Bob hypothesized, likely told Jay that they knew Adnan was guilty of murdering Hae, and that Jay needed to cooperate and provide additional details.  I’m convinced that Jay didn’t believe them at first, but they were probably very persuasive.  Convinced at some point that the cops did actually have some real evidence of Adnan’s involvement in Hae’s murder, Jay likely began painting a picture of the last few weeks he had spent with Adnan.

The first thing that probably came out was that his girlfriend Stephanie’s birthday was January 13th.  It was a significant date not just because it was the day that Hae went missing but because it was also Stephanie’s birthday.  So that had to be part of the narrative, because clearly if Adnan was really close friends with Stephanie, Jay’s girlfriend, and had gotten her a birthday gift, and advised Jay to do the same.  So I suspect the narrative that was heard at trial was built around the mall trip etc. and Stephanie’s birthday.  But at this point Jay is already singing. Painting a picture of Adnan that the cops wanted and needed in order to frame the state’s case.

At some point during the many chats with the police and interrogations, Jay had to realize that his lies and claims had gotten him far deeper than he had ever imagined his Crimestoppers “anonymous tip” would get him.  He just wanted to collect $2500 well $3000 when it was all said and done.

The thing is most people probably know that the tip you provide to Crimestoppers is only paid out if it results in the solving or conviction of the case. So unless you have some guilty knowledge or real awareness of the facts surrounding a case, it’s not a very lucrative decision.

Knowing what he knows now, I’m almost certain Jay would have made much different choices when it comes to his claims and involvement in this case altogether. I can probably bet that if he had the chance to do it all over again:

  • he would have kept his mouth shut and taken his chances with the ‘probably’ minor drug charge he was facing, rather than be intimidated by the Baltimore Police
  • send an associate to jail,
  • involve his best friend Jen in a crazy mess
  • and essentially be at the mercy of the prosecutor and charging officers for years and years to come.

Looking back now that Jay has moved away and has a wife and family of his own he wants to protect, who wouldn’t choose a few days or weeks in jail over a lifetime of harassment and accusatory claims against themselves.

Photo of now 35-year old Adnan Syed at his PCR hearing in Baltimore, February 2016.

It’s really a shame that Jay was so selfish in this, because it was certainly not worth sending an innocent man to jail.  Who knows whether he knew it from the beginning, sometime after Adnan’s arrest, or if it wasn’t until he was at the trial that he became aware his actions had sent a close associate to jail for a crime he had not committed.

Can you imagine being Adnan…being arrested for the murder of your ex-girlfriend whom you loved and not knowing why you were being targeted as her murderer? And then learning that someone you thought was your friend had actually gone to the cops and accused you of the heinous act, and having absolutely no idea why this guy would make up this lie. And more so, how this huge misunderstanding wasn’t cleared up, then you end up being tried and convicted.  I’d be dumbfounded and blaming myself for even being in the same social circle as someone who could do something like that.

Neighbor Boy

The neighbor boy portion was also very interesting…I actually believe that what we’ve heard on Serial and Undisclosed about the personality and character traits of Neighbor boy is probably a combination of both Neighbor Boy and Jay Wilds.

My assessment was that Jay possessed more of the “blabbermouth” quality that was pinned on Neighbor boy than Neighbor Boy (NB) actually did.  NB seemed like a guy that sorta wanted to be liked by people so he would just share interesting info and stories he had heard or experienced. But not in a ‘I’ve got a secret’ type of way, more of a social conversation… ‘Did you hear about …’ kind of way.

According to NB, Jay told him that Adnan had murdered Hae and showed him (Jay) Hae’s body in the trunk of a car.  NB also stated to Bob Ruff that according to Jay, because Adnan was Jay’s weed supplier that Jay had expected to see a large amount of weed in the trunk when Adnan supposedly went to ‘pop the trunk’ but was surprised to see a dead body instead.  Which to me is hardly believable that Adnan was Jay’s supplier.

The cast of characters in this story is just unbelievable. If Hollywood doesn’t take this real life drama and turn it into a movie, they’re losing out on a huge pay day! I don’t want to make light of a serious situation but I could come up with a great cast….maybe my next post?

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Serially Obsessed!

IMG_9276The story of a missing high school honor student who was later found dead and her recent ex-boyfriend who was charged with her murder in Maryland back in 1999 has been my latest obsession for the last few weeks. If by now, you have not heard about the SERIAL podcast that began in October of 2014, then you must be living in a cave.

I first learned about this podcast about a year ago when the Today Show did a segment on it as the last episode was preparing to be released for season 1.  I have never really got into the whole “podcast” thing so I didn’t pay it too much attention then. But for whatever reason I recently heard the first episode of Serial’s season 1 and was immediately hooked. It is great for traveling so I binged through it quickly.

For quick background information on the case, SSerialerial provides a “partially unbiased” look into what happened on the afternoon of January 13th 1999, and the events that followed.  Essentially, a Korean-American female high school senior, Hae Min Lee, went missing on January 13 in 1999.  Her body was found a few weeks later in the city of Baltimore and her recent Pakistani-American ex-boyfriend and classmate, Adnan Syed, was charged with her murder.

The thing that makes this case so interesting is the cast of characters involved in the resulting trial, but more than anything it is the lack of real evidence against Adnan that somehow got him convicted and the fact that he very much seems like the most unluckiest person alive.

After I finished listening to SERIAL, I had my own theory, which I’ll share in a later post, on the case but was still a bit hesitant to make a firm assertion as to who I thought was guilty/involved etc.  So as many others have stated, Serial left me with more questions than I was comfortable with.

Luckily I immediately began listening to what I’ll call the sister podcast series entitled “Undisclosed: The State vs. Adnan Syed” which unlike SERIAL was very biased towards the innocence of Adnan.  But after episode 10 of Undisclosed, which I had to listen to at least 4 times to understand what they were trying to explain, I was convinced that Adnan was the lead character in a series of very unfortunate events, and that he was wrongfully convicted.

For me this case is even more interesting because 10 years ago I lived in Baltimore county not too far from Woodlawn high school, the school the victim and her boyfriend attended, and I’m familiar with several of the locations mentioned in the case.

But for me this is/was a case of more than just guilt or innocence. It is a case of justice and our very flawed legal system and our even more flawed prison and reform system. Whether you believe Adnan is guilty or not, one thing that is certain is that his court case was a complete circus and undoubtedly should not have led to his conviction.

Because of my past career plans to complete law school and pursue a career in the legal system, this case and all of the hoopla surrounding it have made me strongly reconsider my decision against going to law school.  I’m excited about a few things I have in the works that will allow me to explore an old and now refreshed passion of mine. And I’m also excited to see what will happen with this ongoing case, as recently a Baltimore City judge granted Adnan’s request for a post conviction hearing relief to reopen his case.

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Use Your Words

useyourwords Friend, foe, man, homie, ex, lover, and pronouns are all words that can just as easily be used to describe the person in question. There are a myriad of words that can be used to address or describe a person.  So why promulgate a word with such a negative history.  No matter how you try and skin the cat, it’s still a cat.

You often hear parents scold their youth when they whine or fail to accurately articulate their wants or needs, using the phrase “Use your words”.  That is what words are for, to help us communicate the thoughts in our minds. So we use our words to translate those thoughts into intelligible phrases that can be understood by others.

This post has been in my mind for years. If you know me personally, then you know how I loathe the “N” word.  Let’s be clear. I’m referring to the word “Nigga” or “Nigger” or any variant of the word.  I don’t even use the word when reciting lyrics that are littered with the word.

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How can we continually expect others to refrain from using a word that is so heavily embedded in our own vocabularies.  I hear the “N” word far to regularly, from friends and family.  Incessantly I’ll ask the individual or individuals to refrain from using it.   It bothers me.

I’ve been ‘affectionately’ called the “N” word. But let’s be clear about something else. I am not now, nor have I ever been a nigga or anybody’s nigga.  So I will not allow you to call me or refer to me as such.

I have a friend who must have the “N” word as his most frequently used word. And I’ve questioned him on why he chooses to use that word so often.   Although I know he does not have any children, I’ve asked, “Would you call your daughter or mother a Nigga?”  His response was, “Yea, I call my nieces that”.  All I could do at that point was shake my head, as we have had several conversations about the “N-word” in length.

If you can’t comfortably use a word in the presence of your parents, your youthful children, the president of the United States, your boss, a mixed crowd, or any group of people for that matter, perhaps you shouldn’t use it.  It just shouldn’t be in your vocabulary, and especially not in heavy rotation.

Some argue that the word should just be removed altogether, and I agree with that to some degree. But you can’t completely remove a word from any language.  Just as you can’t remove the history of those who fought so hard for our freedoms and equality that were challenged each time that nefarious word was used. Especially not this word, with such a complex history. But just as you will seldom hear a gay man call another gay man a “faggot”, it’s just as absurd to me for a black person to call another black person a “nigga”.

It’s disrespectful!  By eliminating or reducing its use we begin moving towards the right direction, and hopefully those of African descent will be closer to being regarded equally in our global society.  We disrespect and harm our own kind at a disproportionate rate compared to any other group.  So how can we expect everyone else to respect us if we blatantly disrespect ourselves and our ancestors.

I promise you that Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. would never utter the word Nigga to greet a friend, or refer to anyone. And if he was alive today he would be disheartened by the prevalence of the word.

The word Nigger was used very negatively in the past to defame, devalue, and define a group of people simple based on the color of their skin.  Just because one has a certain level of natural melanin in their skin, they were angrily called a Nigger.  In the same token, they were beat, raped, killed, falsely accused, unjustly targeted and in many cases this is still continuing today.

So many people have become desensitized by the words’ usage. You can hear it on a daily basis if you listen to the radio, watch television or movies or have casual interactions with people.  Which in my opinion is also part of the problem.  As a black woman, I know the history of the word Nigga or Nigger, it’s affected my parents and grandparents and their parents in a negative way. So I know the history associated with it and it is very negative.  I know it because in a sense I’ve lived it.

Especially when I hear stories from my grandparents about using a “whites only” water fountain or movie theater section.  I can sense the pain emoted from this era and its biased societal norms.

If I was Jewish I’m sure the sensitivities associated with Germany during the Holocaust, or concentration camps or genocide of my people would be a sore subject.  Particularly if a word once used derogatorily to describe my people was rebranded and used matter-of-factly to address or describe those same people but more importantly used by those same people.  This concept as it is applied to another group of people, in this case those who follow Judaism, is so foreign to me that it is hard to compare and associate it in a fashion similar to blacks and the “N” word.

But you’d be hard pressed to find another group of people who have adapted a negative word into their daily vocabulary to describe themselves.

I’ve posed this question to two black men “How would you feel if you heard a white man use the N word?” One told me he wouldn’t like it, and the other said he wouldn’t really care. I would personally rather that nobody used it regardless of their skin color. If a white or non-black person sings along with the word in a song, although it may have no malicious intent, subconsciously it gives them permission and condones the use of the word. They become comfortable with the word and sometimes have no concept of what the word means to a lot of black Americans. To quote Piers Morgan, “Teach the youth of today the N-word is so heinous that even to repeat it ironically is to perpetuate its poison.”

If we want society/Americans/non-blacks to appreciate us, to recognize us as successful, contributing members of society and not nuisances, or terrorists, or animals, we must stop using a word that embodies those exact sentiments.

In the end, the mainstream use of the N-word is something that may be debated for years to come. But my hope is that it is replaced with something non-controversial or as previously stated a pronoun or specific word that denotes the intended meaning.

If you have to debate over whether or not to use a word in hopes of not offending someone or some group of people, err on the side of caution and refrain from using it at all or USE YOUR WORDS to describe or explain the message you are trying to convey.

 

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Kim Kardashian’s Backless Sweater

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Kim Kardashian-West is definitely winning in this assemble.   This is the type of attire I want to see her in, the fashion icon that turns heads and inspires women and fashionistas alike.   Too often we see her in a midi-skirt and blazer on her way to nowhere important.  Not that there is anything wrong with the extra sexy business woman look, but I often doubt that she is actually going to a business meeting or somewhere that would demand that type of attire.

But this look right here! HUN-NEY!  If I had that body, I’d wear it in every color! This is a fun daytime look but could easily be worn in the evening with dark wash skinny jeans and nude heels.

We can’t see the top of the back in this photo but I imagine she’s wearing a bra that crosses high in the back.  I’m always curious about her undergarments though. She’s blessed to have “balanced” curves. Meaning she’s got back and boobies, but we rarely see her bra-lines or the top of her Spanx.

Now photographers have captured her oops moments in the past where we’ve gotten a glimpse of her Spanx on a windy day. And in this photo, snapped a Teyana Taylor’s album listening party, if you look closely you can see the outline of her bra, but only faintly.

I can’t recall seeing nipples through her clothes. Maybe it’s just me who is actually curious about these things, but whatever secrets she has for camouflaging her underwear in all of her clothes, she needs to sell that.  No woman wants to have her lumps and bumps showing or evidence of undergarments that help us get that “snatched” look, so Kim, help us all out and share your secrets girl.  She certainly has enough money to get her clothes altered to add “built-ins”.  But for us “reg-u-lah” folks, I’m sure she has alternatives that she uses in a time crunch.

Kimmy Kakes is definitely a style-icon but I just love this outfit.  She has the perfect figure to make this look amazing.  I don’t think there is anyone else that could wear this and have the same impact.

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Haven’t We All Been Mary Jane?

Why are people so upset about the TV show Being Mary Jane? She chose to exercise bad judgement. I’m not condoning her behavior but the reality is she is like a lot of American women.

The women who hate on her and the show are probably ashamed to admit that they identify with her so much. Not just the affair, but the struggle of being a professional woman, dealing with family issues. work, and relationships. I think Mary Jane is much more than a woman who was once involved with a married man. ‪#‎BeingMaryJane‬

What single woman has not dealt with a lot of the issues that Mary Jane Paul has (aside from the affair)?  She has a brother struggling with addiction, another making bad life choices that could surely affect his freedom and future, and a niece who doesn’t value herself with more kids than she can afford. Who can’t say they don’t see their family reflected somewhere in her story?

So contrary to popular belief, I do not think the show is about a home wrecker or a scandalous side chick. I do think it is about a woman seeking a love of her own to fulfill the vision she set for her life.

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Weekday Club Scene Fail!

Shot of Cooky’s from their website that is surprisingly exactly what it looked like when we went.

So last Thursday I had decided I would go out and explore the nightlife and club scene in Frankfurt.  I had done a little research and found some spots that claimed to play Hip-Hop so I jotted a few down and planned to go alone.  It was a weeknight and I didn’t think anyone I knew would be down to hang out on a “school night”.

I received a call from a new friend asking what I was up to. I told him I had planned to go out and explore, to which he was surprised since it was a weekday.  His comment about the day of the week led me to believe that he was uninterested in accompanying me.  But after I told him where I had planned to go he offered to take me somewhere better.

Ultimately, we ended up starting at a spot called the King Kamehameha Club but it was closed. Later, I found out that the party was likely moved to a boat on the River and open Wednesday nights.  I’ll have to check that out soon, because the river at night is beautiful.   We then tried the original spot I had planed to go to called Cooky’s. It was 5 Euro per person to get in, and once we were in, we realized that we were the only ones there. Literally no one else, but he and I.  #fail   This night was not panning out like I had imagined.  We ended up just walking to Sauchsenhausen and smoking  at a hookah spot for a bit before heading home.

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Reality TV: The Root of Divorce

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I can create a very long list of my favorite Reality television shows. And a list just as long of the marriages that dissolved after the marriage was put on public display via Reality TV.

Marriage in itself is difficult. Caring for another individual, the shared financial responsibility, children, family drama, you name it. Having your relationship put in front of millions on a weekly basis seems to be the exact recipe for the perfect divorce.

Why so many couples choose to share their most intimate moments with all of the world for a few dollars, I’ll never understand. What happens in many of these marriages is that, friends, the media, and just loyal television watchers begin to comment and impose their thoughts and feelings on the couple and their marriage. In the more recent divorce cases of Porsha and Cordell Stewart. Porsha is/was married to Cordell Stewart a former pro-football player and their relationship was aired in the latest season of BRAVO’s Real Housewives of Atlanta (RHOA). So many people had negative things to say about Cordell being controlling and Porsha not being independent enough or having much of a voice.

As a fan of the RHOA series, I think Porsha was right to defend her husband and her marriage. Not every relationship is for everyone. But for the most part I think that she was well within her right to not go to the strip club with the other ladies. In any relationship you need to choose your battles wisely. In her opinion arguing with her husband over a trip to see some naked women, probably wasn’t worth the drama it would have caused in their relationship. In her confessional, Porsha later revealed that she felt that by going to the strip club, she’d be partaking in degrading behavior and in her heart she had a ministry for women she wanted to develop. And I agree with Porsha that, that type of behavior wouldn’t be particularly conducive to empowering women through ministry.

Another alternative reason for the failed marriage is probably how Cordell saw himself on the show. Nobody knows what really goes on behind closed doors in a marriage. But once you open the doors and windows, you will certainly be put on display for all to comment. And once you really see how you’re portrayed on screen, it’s no debating the facts. Maybe Cordell didn’t like the way Porsha was portrayed and what people would say about her naiveté.

The bottom-line is that marriage vows are exchanged between two people. Those two people decide what works for their marriage and what doesn’t. Allowing outsiders to comment and doubt how you govern your marriage is setting the relationship up for failure. Especially, when many of those outsiders don’t have the best interest of the couple in mind when they give advice or commentary.

There are few marriages and relationships that have survived Reality TV. What’s their secret? Whatever it is they could definitely bottled it and sell it for millions. The one that immediately comes to mind is Ozzie and Sharon in the TV series The Osbournes. The Osbournes may be one of the few couples that survived the curse of reality tv, and by the looks of recent reports, their marriage is on the rocks. Another is Khloe and Lamar I like them together and I wish both couples the best.

A few of marriages that have failed the Reality TV test are:

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English: Nick Lachey and Jessica Simpson at the Headquarters of US Marine Corps, posing for the camera. (The couple later hit the road with their “Nick & Jessica’s Tour of Duty”.) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey (Newlyweds)

Bobby and Whitney (Being Bobby Brown)

Kate and Jon (Jon and Kate +8)

Nene and Gregg Leeks (well, apparently they’re remarrying)

Hulk and Linda (Hogan Knows Best)

Kim Kardashian and Kris (This marriage was probably doomed before the start due to so many reasons)

Eric Snow and DeShawn (RHOA)

Lisa Wu and Ed Hartwell (RHOA)

Jennifer and Eric Williams (Basketball Wives)

Bethany Frankel and Jason

Kelsey and Camille Grammer (RHOBH)

 

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Dark Skin vs. Light Skin: The Color Complex

Color classification is a still a huge deal around the world and seen more prevalent in the African-American, Indian, and Asian communities. The color of one’s skin can be linked to social status in the community.

While many people of non-European decent typically think of  their own culture as being plagued by the stereotypes and negative connotations associated with darker vs. lighter skin, the truth is you can find it in almost every culture or group of people.

The Indian community has long suffered from the caste system and connections to skin color. It’s still typical to see fairer skin Indians marry each other and darker skin Indians marry each other, than to see a darker and fairer skin Indian couple marry; it’s frowned upon by the couples’ families.

Additionally, many Asians, women in particular, invest in bleaching and lightening products to make their skin fairer or whiter. If you’ve ever spent time in any Asian country you’ll notice television commercials and advertisements cast with the lightest skin women.

In the African-American community, stereotypes continue to perpetuate the idea of lighter skin being better than darker skin.  Just recently on an episode of  VH1’s Love and Hip-Hop, the rapper Consequence defended his lyrics in a song referring to the skin tone of women.

Light skin is the right skin, so you, you, you and your white friend

Maybe lighter complected skin is most attractive to him, which is fine to have a preference but to say one is right denotes that anything else is not.

One of the problems I see is that this conversation seems to evoke a feeling of black or white. Not in the sense of African-American or Caucasian but in the sense of one extreme or the other. What happens if your skin tone falls somewhere in the middle? How should you be classified? I don’t think that in the black community light skin or dark skin are sufficient adjectives to describe the many shades and hues that we bless the world with. Chocolate, latte, mocha, caramel ..we’ve relegated our color to coffee flavors. I don’t think it’s a bad thing because you actually get a better understanding of a person’s hue with those descriptors.

Color and complexion distinctions are made clear for most during childhood years. Hollywood actress Gabrielle Union depicts an all too similar experience as a ‘brown girl’ growing up  in her letter to her younger self displayed beautifully in the October 2012 issue of Ebony magazine. I read it when the issue was released and thought that it was so wonderfully and beautifully written that I cut it out, added it to my journal and was inspired to write my own letter to my younger self.

In the letter Union wrote:

Your deep Mahogany skin may not resemble that of the others in your family, but it’s just as gorgeous and you’re just as worthy….One day you’ll appreciate how much your brown skin shines in the moonlight, glistens in the sun and ages ever so slowly.

This resonating with me so strongly because I too had feelings of inferiority due to the images on television and personal experiences. As I got older I learned to accept and embrace my chocolateness. But those images that portray lighter skin as perpetually equaling beautiful still exist, so it becomes even more necessary to be confirmed in who you are, as to not compare yourself to anyone.

Through every example of skin tone revealed above and others not mentioned here, it is obvious to see that the underlying factor in the skin color debate is the lack of self-love and acceptance. No matter who you are, where you were born, how you were raised,  every person has some complex with themselves that either they don’t like, want to change or are just not comfortable with. If you find the love for yourself from within, and don’t allow other people’s opinions or judgement to dictate your beauty, stereotypes will not be an issue for you.

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Oprah’s OWN network recently aired a documentary entitled “Dark Girls” highlighting the degradation of darker skin [black] women. It depicts to a broad audience something that so many suffer from silently. I think it was pretty well done and honest. The documentary can be viewed here.

ETA:

This upcoming January 2015 Oprah’s OWN network will be airing a follow-up to the Dark Girls documentary entitled Light Girls.  I’m interested to see the juxtaposition of these two points of views.  Here is the preview:

Now that Light Girls has aired, stay tuned for my thoughts on the similarities, differences and perception.

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My New Favorite Things:

Lena Dunham

Lena is just awesome in what she’s created in seemingly such a short time.  She acts, directs, writes, and is pretty good at them all I must say. I follow her on Instagram and after finding out that she wrote and directed an independent film, I had to see it. I did and it is a bit similar to the feel you get from the HBO hit-series ‘Girls’ and happens to star several members of the Girls cast.

Chrisette Michele

I’ve loved her since her first album.  Her voice was perfect for the Jay-Z hit song Lost One and she quickly made a name for herself with her debut album I Am.  She has a mixed tape currently out and is opening for Keyshia Cole on tour.  I can’t wait for her next project. I just love who she is, her voice,  and what she represents. Especially, after seeing her in interviews and witnessing her perform first-hand at my church last year.

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Travel Blogs

Anyone who knows me knows I’m always going somewhere. I’ve traveled to many, many places and plan to continue doing so. As I’m preparing to possibly move, I’ve become somewhat obsessed with several travel blogs and websites. Part of the reason for creating this blog was to document my travels and experiences abroad. I have so many pictures and experiences from my travels that I want to share and display for my followers. I can’t wait.

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Why Video Vixens or Urban Models Don’t Compare to Runway or Mainstream Print Models

When you think of Video Vixens you probably think of Karrine Steffans, Melyssa Ford, Buffy the Body. These women have made a name for themselves by being overtly sexy in music videos and men’s magazines. Although these women commonly call themselves models, many will beg to differ. Yes they model, but when compared to more mainstream models, what are these ladies actually modeling. They typically don minimum amounts of clothing or skin-tight fabrics that leave little to the imagination.

Heidi

An obvious difference in a Heidi Klum compared to a Melyssa Ford is the body type. Video vixens are systematically chosen by their curves and voluptuous bodies. Runway and print models are chosen for their bodies as well but the criteria is much different, primarily the best canvas to show off the item of clothing or jewelry being advertised or promoted. Many video models are gyrating or posing in such a way that you can barely see the clothing. So what are they advertising?

Sex, at least in most cases. Grant it, Heidi doing the same pose as Buffy the Body and in the same bathing suit would be much less overtly sexy.  But my point is, if you name a woman at the top of her game in each category, Runway or Print and Urban or Video, you have to ask what is each model most synonymous with? For Runway or Print you may say a particular fashion designer or brand. So for someone like Adriana Lima you may think Victoria Secret or Guess? or for Naomi Campbell you may think high fashion or Vogue magazines. But when you think of Esther Baxter or Melyssa Ford what do you think of? Do you think of a particular hip-hop artist or rapper, or do you think of a particular men’s magazine or do you think sexy poses and lingerie?

As a woman if I’m looking to purchase a new bathing suit or lingerie, I’d probably check the latest Victoria Secret catalog before I’d check King or XXL magazine.

Of course you want some level of physical attraction when choosing a model for anything. And I imagine Nelly chooses more curvy models for his Apple Bottom line because its the best canvas for his clothing line. But should Melyssa be able to call herself a model  in the same fashion as Heidi Klum or Tyra Banks.

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